Soulful Self-Care


how lovely you are here, welcome, here's a little bit about me.    xxx


About Me - short story

Hi, I'm Belinda Noyes.  I live in the Wairarapa, NZ, am married to Tony, the local small animal Vet, and am a mother to a teenager and a toddler.  I am constantly being challenged by normal life while practicing mindfulness, self care, self kindness and self compassion.  It is a commitment I make every day - most days I succeed, some days I don't.

About Me - longer story

I am a Kiwi that has spent several years of my adult life living in England.  My search for ‘happiness’, painfully lead me to many wonderful places.  I thought something must be wrong because I wasn't 'happy', I spent a lot of time trying to 'be happy'.  I travelled the world on my own, attending many soul searching retreats; from an Ayuverdic Centre in India, to Shamanic Ceremonies in the Peruvian Amazon jungle, to a silent retreat in Assisi, Italy.  I wasn't sure exactly what I was looking for, but I felt something was missing, or that I was 'broken' in some way.  Jump to the end of this story … I discovered I wasn't broken, I didn't need to 'be fixed'.  I learnt that happiness is an emotion .. one that is present when we get what we want.  Trying to permanently grasp happiness is painfully insane.  

So I started studying emotions, the way we think, how we think and the impact that our thoughts have on our lives and reality.  It changed my life (not in the dramatic way like some self-help books tell tales of), but enough that I started treating myself better, with kindness and compassion.  Enough for me to stop protecting myself from sadness, pain or discomfort and address the anxiety and fear of those types of emotions.    

Introducing mindfulness into my life, challenging whether my thoughts & beliefs are actually true or not, and create my own inner practice has allowed me to find joy and calmness…. they aren't always present but I don't try to grab a hold of them and I know they always return once I connect to my Inner Practice.

My philosophy is captured by Rumi in his poem 'The Guest House'

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

-- Jelaluddin Rumi,

In addition to being a perfectly imperfect ​human-being, my other qualifications include:

Bachelor Of Counselling (NZ)
Diploma Life Coaching (UK)
Diploma Hypnotherapy (UK)
Diploma Anatomy Physiology & Massage (UK)
Certificate Natural Therapies (NZ)

Certificate of Complementary Therapies (NZ)
Certificate Shirodhara Therapy (UK)
Oriental Face Massage Practitioner Diploma (UK)
Certificate Hot & Cold Stone Therapy (UK)